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spending christmas at tŷ hafan

Sarah has been coming to Tŷ Hafan for a number of years with her daughters, Molly and Emily. They've spent Christmas Day here and Sarah wanted to give us an insight into how that made their Christmas.

Molly and Emily

Tŷ Hafan means so much to us. We’ve been coming here for eight or nine years now and we feel part of the Tŷ Hafan family. It just makes our lives 100 times better. It’s really something.

Christmas is so special here. When you’re at home, there is so much work involved. At Christmas, everyone else is having such a lovely time with their families, eating Christmas dinner and, while we have all that with our families around us, we still have to do all the caring – medication, changing and feeding.

When we come to Tŷ Hafan at Christmas, it’s just 1,000 time better. We can do all the nice things like open presents, sing Christmas songs and watch Christmas films with the children and let the staff deal with all the other things. They take the weight off your shoulders. They make you feel so welcome and looked after.

We were here two years ago at Christmas and it was one of the best we’ve ever had. We’ve had a few really difficult Christmases, especially as the girls didn’t really understand what was going on. They’re getting a bit better now and understand it a bit more, but you can still feel alone and isolated. So when you’re here with other people, where everyone is in the same boat as you, it does make you feel a lot better.

Christmas memories that stand out are simply being able to sit with the girls with the presents and enjoy having dinner with them without having to change and clean them. Just being able to have that one-to-one interaction with them without all the stressful stuff that you do every day. To do that at Christmas is harder so to have that break on Christmas Day is lovely. Watching a Christmas film with them sitting around the telly with all the other children, seeing them opening all their presents together with the staff and children was lovely, a real memorable moment.

Being at Tŷ Hafan has really helped us. I don’t know what I’d do without Tŷ Hafan’s support. To have that help on Christmas Day is so special. We can be a family. I can be a mum and not a carer.

A couple of years ago, we didn’t come for Christmas Day, but we were here the week before and saw the pantomime. We still felt we were part of the Christmas celebrations here.

We know that Tŷ Hafan’s doors are always open to us. When we’re feeling alone, unhappy and depressed, as those dark days do come, no matter how much family is around you, you do feel alone and have those dark days, Tŷ hafan’s doors are always open and we know they will always be there for us. Even if the girls stop coming here, when they reach that age, we know the support will always be here if we need it. It’s such a really special place, we’d be lost without it. We were before we came here. Life was a lot harder for us.

Merry Christmas from everyone at Tŷ Hafan. Thank you for everything you do and please continue to support this very special place.

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